“How do I not care so much about what people think?”
This is one question that came through recently.
“I want to put myself out there more. I want to create content and videos and awesome stuff for my followers. So how do I stop caring what people think and put out video content on the regular?”
They went on to ask… “How do I be myself? How do I express myself? How do I not care what my friends and colleagues and family think when I produce content like this like a video?”
I’ve got three tips which helped me when I first started doing these videos.
Hopefully, you can take something from these three.
The first tip is to disconnect.
When you produce a video, whether it’s live or pre-recorded or on your blog you’d typically get three people three types of people, right?
In the middle, other lurkers, and the lurkers.
Lurkers will watch your content and say nothing.
They won’t like. They won’t tell you. They’ll just watch from a distance and sort of just lurk and not tell you what they feel about your content.
The second group of people love your content.
They will physically tell you and love the video and share and comment and interact and tell you to your face they love that content you produce.
The third type will tell you they don’t like your video to your face or perhaps via a message.
Last week, I got all three.
I got some people say “I love your content”. I got one gentleman writing an encyclopedia length private message to one of my videos. Apparently I caused his hurt bone to be damaged, his balls shriveled up. And he wrote me a 3000-word explanation about why he thought I was wrong and I was a pretty boy and all these things.
The biggest lesson that I’ve got when first producing video was this: disconnect from all feedback.
Someone says your content is amazing, well you say “thank you” but you don’t take it personally.
If someone says “I love your content”, “your video’s great content”, “great, I love it”, you say “thanks” but you don’t put yourself up on a pedestal
On the flipside of that coin, when someone calls you a “pretty boy”and they hate you publicly or privately, you say “thanks” and you don’t take that personally.
There’s a story of a bird in the tree at sunrise doing what birds do.
Making a beautiful song at 5am or 6am when the sun came up.
The first person walks past and says “Hey bird, you’ve just made my day. This beautiful singing, I was in a down mood. You’ve brightened my morning. I want to have a great day. Thank you so much, Birdie.”
And the birdie he says he says, “I don’t care. I’m going to keep doing my thing.”
The second person walks past and says “Fucking bird. Will you shut up? I’m trying to sleep in. You’re ruining my morning, my one morning off. I hate your fricken song.”
The dude throws a rock at the bird.
The bird watches the rock go past and says “I don’t care man. I’m just doing my birdie thing.”
The point of that story is like the saying “just do you, boo” is to just do you.
Whether you get negative comments or positive comments, it doesn’t matter.
The video, the content, this right now is an expression of me.
I’m just doing Pete Tansley.
I’m just doing my thing and sharing some perspective in a birds story and a story about a guy calling me a pretty boy.
So when you’re the bird just doing your thing, you are not put off course by someone dissing you or someone loving your content.
As the saying goes “just do you, boo.”
If you’re watching this and this makes you make sense, give me some love.
I won’t take it to heart.
Give me some hate. I won’t take it to heart.
But just so you know that what I’m saying makes sense.
What you see me doing is just me being the bird.
I’m going to produce content whether I get zero views or 10000 views, I’m gonna keep doing it.
That’s part of who I am. It’s part of what I’m expressing out.
So with your content, if you want to do video just let it be an expression of you.
You’re not deterred by someone throwing rocks at you like the bird.
You’re not deterred by people loving you.
You are going to continue, no matter what, because it’s an expression of you coming out into the world.
Love me or hate me, I’m detached from your opinion.
I’m gonna keep doing videos and posts and sending e-mails and keep putting my word out there because that’s what I’m here to do.
So if you’re concerned about what people think, just do you.
Be the bird.
Be an expression of yourself and don’t give any fucks if someone loves you or hates you.
I hope you take something from this.
I’ll talk soon.